Men stink mostly.

[Celtic Lilly]

I come home last night and find that the apartment smells like, well air freshner and sex and my boyfriend relaxing watching TV and looking just a slight bit nervous.

I go to our room to change out of my work clothes and find that the bed has been changed. Oh, that's nice. Except it smells like sex in here. I didn't say anything, I just went to the laundry room and found that he was washing the sheets, but couldn't get them all in there so he was waiting for the next load. Strong sex smell over the detergent.

Long story short, I hit him with a music box and he began apologizing. I hit him with another one which was my snowglobe which broke and cut up his feet as he was barefooted. He got out. I spent the last two hours of last night throwing his stuff over the balcony (not much really) after setting fire to it or cutting it up with the scissors. It is still out there today, though someone went through it as there is stuff moved or missing.

Men stink.

[Sakura]

Oh my, that's awful. Just don't let him come back. You'll surely find someone more faithful.

[EricJ]

Ok, guys point of view on this one.

He's a total ass and deserves everything you're giving him, however guys, being total retards in our thinking, will interpret this as "paying our dues" and in time it will even out and go back to normal. Don't let him think this for a moment, even the slightest hint of forgiveness will just prolong the whole situation in a negative way.

He doesn't deserve to be forgiven, you deserve someone who would never even think to do something like this. The fact he tried to get away with it definately means he's both probably done it before, and will certainly do it again. That he is a liar, and anything he may say to explain it is just more lies.

Being a guy, I see this type of guy the perspective from "locker room" chat, so to speak, when guys talk about stuff like this when there is no chance of women around. It really is sickening at times. Cheeters are chronic cheeters, and they develop systems to justify it and get away with it, and even joke about how good they are at talking themselves out of it if caught.

I'm not saying all guys are like this, however, from your post, it sounds like this guy may be one of them.

*comfort* there is better out there for you, promise

-Eric

[Gonzoangel]

That sucks big time.......commiserations CL, but like Eric says, there's someone better out there for you, and you'll find him one of these days.

[Ritual]

Good thing you kicked him out! I've heard plenty of guys bragging about getting away with this sort of thing and I always silently hope they get into serious trouble one day! Being a guy and all, I still can't feel any sympathy for this kind of behaviour. :rocketwho

[cdukino]

Well this seriously sucks. I'm sorry for you CL. Good thing you kicked him out... and like Eric said... his behavure did point to him being a more notorious cheater. It might be his first time... but chances are it isn't, nor will be the last time. If you take him back he will probably promise the world, make excuses and promise on his knees he won't do it again... chances are when all is calmed and time passes.. he will fall into old habits again. So better go for a guy that will be true to you now you pretty much caughed him redhanded.

[Celtic Lilly]

HeLLooooo!

Sorry that I aired out my dirty laundry in the forums. Thank you though for listening. As for that #@!%#%^, don't worry about me taking him back. He and I had been together for about six months and I'm not insecure enough to need a bastard in my life.

Men are like flies, they are always buzzing around and need to be 'swatted' from time to time. When I want a man, that isn't much of a problem - its finding one that I want to bother being around for more than a night that is the issue.

I treated myself to chocolate and a movie yesterday and have the locks on the door changed (apartment manager was accomodating, though I did have to pick up the clothes and stuff I threw out the balcony the night before).

Thank you for the kind words and the private messages. Sorry, haven't replied to any yet.

[EricJ]

no need to be sorry, this is a new forum, it's nice to get to know the people I don't know from cmon. And I've been guilty of similar, and it resulted in me getting to know and feel so much more comfortable in a forum community :)


http://www.coolminiornot.com/forums/viewthread.php?tid=7096

[Gonzoangel]

We're all friends here, you should be able to vent from time to time and not feel guilty about it.
Life is not always that easy.

[Celtic Lilly]

The jerk tried to come over last night to talk. Wouldn't let him in and told him to get lost. I lost another music box as I threw it at him from the balcony. Missed him by a good three feet!

:AR15firin

Why does someone that has cheated on another person feel the need to come back and explain themselves? I don't care why you did it. You did it! Now get out. Bye. So Long. Hope you get hit by a truck.

I'm going to gain weight if he keeps this up. I ravaged a Ben & Jerry's last night.

[Gonzoangel]

That's the way....don't ever let him in, but find something else to throw at him :) .
What's a Ben & Jerry's?

[Frustrated Father]

That's the way....don't ever let him in, but find something else to throw at him :) .
What's a Ben & Jerry's?

:ditto:

http://www.benandjerrys.com/assets/images/our_products/packaging/7684010035.gif

[Klute]

Yup men can be shits alright......don't give up hope though, there are good guys out there,,,,,,honest.

Take it easy CL.

[Gonzoangel]

:ditto:

http://www.benandjerrys.com/assets/images/our_products/packaging/7684010035.gif


AH HA, many thanks :)


*mmmmm..................ice cream............drool *

[EricJ]

It's pretty darn good ice cream too. Although one of the best things about Santa Cruz (rivalling with the long coastline and the weather), is the 3 competing home made ice cream places (and a gilato place too). You'd love it CL!

[Spacemunkie]

I would never cheat on my partner.

She'd burn my records :D

[RedDawn]

Hi CL - so sorry to hear about what happenend. I guess it's better to find out now than when you're married with kids.

I'm very glad to hear that you're not one of those women who HAS to have a man. My mom called it "pickiness," I called it "finding the right person"! (Course - had to go through some real a-holes before I found Grumb!)

[Gonzoangel]

Yes it's hard to find a good man..........there's not many of us left!! :thumb:

[Celtic Lilly]

Thank you again everyone!

I haven't seen or heard from him since the second night when he came back, so I am pretty sure he got the message.

As for 'needing' a man, no thanks. Not to sound vain, but a man can be gotten, and fairly cheaply at that should that be what I want. It is having someone to snuggle up to, spend time with and enjoy life with that I am somewhat looking for now, but I'm not going to cheapen myself and jump at the first man that looks at me.

Besides, there are always toys!

:D

[Leopardpixie]

Kick Him to the CURB, find a better cuter nerder guy that will worship your every step :fisheye:

[Duende]

Yes it's hard to find a good man..........there's not many of us left!!

Are you trying to tell CL something, Gonzoangel??

:handkiss:

[Drake Farstrider]

Are you trying to tell CL something, Gonzoangel??

:handkiss:

I think that is the case. :rockon: There are not many of us left, most guys don't want to be labeled as a good guy.

[EricJ]

I don't know, I think a good man can definately be a bad boy at the same time :firedevil

[Equus]

Nope...last I checked most guys don't like being called "nice guys".

...though I prefer that over "insensitive #$%&head", myself.

Sorry to hear about all that CL. That really does stink. Kudos to you for kicking the stupid bastage out and telling him to stay the heck away when he tried to come back.

[Grumb]

Hang in there CL. Stay strong and go find another one...they're everywhere and there are a few goods ones out there, you just have to keep looking.

And don't worry about airing this on the forum. That's what we're all hear for. Each of us in our time will rant about something!

Cheers,
Grumb

[Celtic Lilly]

HeLLooooo everyone!

Just an update. I was out clubbing last week when the EX showed up. He thought he could talk to me but I just went out on the floor and danced with all the guys and ended up making him pretty mad.

:AR15firin

He tried to boss me around on the floor about ten minutes later and last I saw him he was gut punched by a bouncer and frog marched out of the club when one of my friends who knew what was going on told her friend, who was the bouncer. I think she slept with him that night too. Score for me!

I'm so happy! The jerk.

:firedevil

[airhead]

Biggest mistake I ever made was teaching my wife to shoot. She would have unloaded on me.

[marineboy]

Not to make light of your pain, CL, dishonesty in any form hurts, should it be infidelity or simply fibbing about the price of the mini that just came in the mail...ahem.... but you've got a great story there, like something from the movies....

Tom Waits: "Not the shoes. No, not the shoes."

Good thing to laugh about later. Soumds like you're making good on the situation too, bully for you! :rockon:

[Celtic Lilly]

It does sound like something from the boob toob now that you say it! Lalala I'm a drama star.

I don't think the break up was untypical of anyone that has found out that their SO has run around. The club though was classic! I'm still smiling!

[vincegamer]

HeLLooooo everyone!

Just an update. I was out clubbing last week when the EX showed up. Clubbing what? I hope not seals.

He tried to boss me around on the floor about ten minutes later and last I saw him he was gut punched by a bouncer and frog marched out of the club when one of my friends who knew what was going on told her friend, who was the bouncer. I think she slept with him that night too. Score for me!Actually, sounds more like score for the bouncer. :thumb:

[Drake Farstrider]

So let me get this straight your friend slept with your ex?

[Frustrated Father]

Damnit, I knew I shouldn't have given up that bouncer job!

And Drake, I think she meant her friend slept with the bouncer who hit the ex.

I think.

[Leopardpixie]

the bouncer :thumb: i think

[cdukino]

It does sound like something from the boob toob now that you say it! Lalala I'm a drama star.

I don't think the break up was untypical of anyone that has found out that their SO has run around. The club though was classic! I'm still smiling!

Yeah it's always nice to retaliate like this unexpectetly. Oke the reson why you want to retaliate (his infidelity in this case) might suck bigtime... but seeing him get his just reward is nice... I had the pleasure of completely burning down a old school bully a few years back at a reunion that had given me a very hard time at school. Long story... felt good

[Drake Farstrider]

Ahh that makes more sense. I guess I just read that wrong. :imsorry:

[marineboy]

It does sound like something from the boob toob now that you say it! Lalala I'm a drama star.




Nah, more the lead in a film noire.....in "Down By Law" we only saw the guy's stuff being thrown out the window from the guy's point of view. You showed it to us from the girl's.

Now for a good soundtrack.....

[Drake Farstrider]

Who would you have singing? Michael Bolton? :imsorry:

[marineboy]

Arrgh! Maudlin and too overrated!

No, someting with lap steel guitars...

[EricJ]

Wait...so if I come hit your ex...*ponders*

[vincegamer]

I had the pleasure of completely burning down a old school bully a few years back at a reunion that had given me a very hard time at school. Long story... felt good
I'm pretty sure setting someone on fire, no matter how mean he was in high school, is illegal. :argh:

[Drake Farstrider]

Wait...so if I come hit your ex...*ponders*

Then you might get a little :grouphug:

[Celtic Lilly]

I think he was thinking about a little :date: :knuddel:

[Drake Farstrider]

Oh i know what he was thinking, he wants a little :poke: , I was just giving him a hard time is all.

[Celtic Lilly]

Yes but its me that is supposed to get the hard time!

:thumb:

[Drake Farstrider]

Well if you want some go get some. You are female after all.